Codependency Therapy in Buffalo, New York
Codependency can be a confusing and often harmful emotional experience. There’s no mistaking the tenderness and care people who struggle with codependency give their loved ones. Codependents are selfless, nurturing, and sweet people. But as with most good things in life, too much can be a bad thing. Constantly nurturing someone else gives no room for growth. When this happens, love can become dangerous.
Codependency is very misunderstood. People assume it always involves a romantic relationship, but this is not true. Any relationship can become codependent. The bond between parent and child or two best friends can lean codependent just as easily as a romantic relationship.
People who battle with codependency have a strong need to be needed. They get all their satisfaction from serving others to the point that it becomes an addiction. While this may sound good on the surface, the problem is that it is impossible to pour from an empty cup –– and that is exactly what codependency compels people to do.
Even when they can’t take care of themselves, codependents give and give and give to their counterparts. This is detrimental to both people in the relationship. It’s a double-edged sword: basic needs aren’t fulfilled, and mental or physical health problems are being pushed away for the codependent member. The person who is being taken care of doesn’t get the chance to learn how to take care of themselves.
Imagine a codependent father-daughter relationship. Maybe the daughter drops out of college and comes back to live with her family. Her father opens up his home, eager to help his daughter get back on her feet. Only the dad just focuses on providing for his daughter and doesn’t push her to build a life of her own. There is no growth or learning happening here. Not only is the father neglecting his own health and well-being, but he is also hindering the daughter from creating a fulfilling life. This is just one example of how codependency can turn a good relationship awry.
The Help You Need is Here
Harris Hill Counseling therapists have a depth of experience walking people through the necessary healing to free themselves from codependent relationships. Our treatment is individualized and flexible, using tested and perfected techniques.
Together, we can learn how to:
- Recognize and accept personal emotions and thoughts for what they are.
- Develop new relationship skills (like how to say no, or how to let someone try and fail on their own).
- Prioritize your own financial, physical, and mental health.
- Value yourself above what you do for others.
- Communicate your needs better.
Overcome Codependency Today
When codependent relationships are addictive and comforting, it can be hard to recognize how toxic the relationship is and even harder to take steps to fix it. However, there is help. The therapists at Harris Hill Counseling are here to help you every step of the way.